I tried yoga last week for the first time in almost 6 months and I cried for the entire first 20 minutes. Moving my body amidst a personally difficult pregnancy both physically and emotionally really brought up A LOT. I always forget that bodies hold onto any fear (i think this one is the most relevant for me rn) or emotional pain or trauma that isn't cleared or healed. It all just gets internalised and then lives there for a whole lifetime like a pancake stack of pain, layered and layered each time something happens if there is no self-healing or forgiveness. Whoaboyyyyyy. Pregnancy is about as emotional and vulnerable of an experience as they get, so it's the perfect time to let go of as much fear as I can by acknowledging it and then releasing it every g-darn day. Blerg.
SO! Now that I am 20 weeks pregnant, my wardrobe has had to shift a bit to accommodate my huge new boobs (now jugs) and my growing belly. But you need to know there will be no "styling of the bump" or "sizing up"...those are trigger phrases for me that make me want to throw up.
Personal pregnancy style freebie: I have always pursued 'oversized' as that has suited my body type and style preferences the most. The only time I 'size up' is when I know a sweater or coat has the potential to be oversized and super cool even if that wasn't its original cut. I already sit at the upper end of high-street retailer sizing pre-pregnancy at a 10US/14UK so I'm not always able to 'size up' into cool oversize-dom and that is B.S. Sometimes high street retail sizing makes me so frustrated as most of it is cut to fit the mannequins in the windows. (ahem, Zara!) So now that I'm pregnant, I have to go for actually oversized pieces that are meant to fit that way and can't actually 'size up' so whatever.
Now excuse me whilst I go throw up bc of all this 'sizing up' chat.
(*Please note this is very much a 2nd trimester maternity post as I don't yet understand what the 4th trimester (nursing) will entail for me logistically. Currently, I am trying to invest in a thoughtful wardrobe that will be able to carry me through all my pregnancies and also outside pregnancies whenever possible. I also don't love fast-fashion so I've been trying to think '40 weeks pregnant' every time I check out. Haha, let's see how effective it will be. I'm sure there are mom's out there reading this who will be rolling their eyes with experience.)
I have been pretty impressed w H&M Mama, and pants from both Topshop and Asos. Isabella Oliver has some clean, more profesh options that are good to know are out there. Raey is not a maternity line but it is my favourite clothing brand out there AND (BONUS!!) it has oversized cuts with RIDIC luxurious sweaters & coats that are perfect for bumps. I think it may be safe to say that the obsession with Raey is real.
I have yet to find a really nice PJ maternity situation that I like bc I hate kitschy, printed things. I have been sticking to my pre-pregnancy jersey tunics and cashmere pieces (already oversized) for lounging and sleep. There is Francis and Henry which I've had my eye on....so I'll get back to you on that.
I've accidentally already accrued quite the collection of oversized coats that will do up over the bump...at least for the foreseeable future. I've done the very accurate test of 'visualising a beach ball in there' and according to my calculations, we are on track for success. 👍 But these coats below, esp the mansur gavriel dreamboat white one, should do the trick!
I had a looooottttt of fun putting a week's worth of maternity outfits together bc I would literally wear them all when not pregnant too. All of these outfits have actual maternity pants but everything else accommodates bumps and sans-bumps alike. Also I want every single piece here.
If you are wearing anything other than lounge wear on a sunday....youre doing it wrong. haha bold of me, wasnt that!! But I seriously support lounging on Sundays and slow, calm living. Preferably in cashmere now that it's chilly out, but jersey or pima cotton is amazing too!
You can shop bits and bobs from below, or by clicking on the hotspots on the images above you cuties.
ps, I have also done another large endocrine clear out (esp. perfume) and whittled down all my beauty products to meet my clean and natural ingredient criteria only. I will do another blog post on that though you cuties!
I really had hoped I would have been able to describe my pregnancy as 'graceful' but at least I am able to pick my dates and eat them too. Dates like the food, not like the calendar. Anyway, here is my journal at 4am one snowy London morning... xo Ashley